Love & Relationship

I was sitting in the quiet Dessert House with my good friend and we were talking about personal relationship, on what makes a healthy and happy relationship as well as the different perspectives of guys and girls when it comes to loveship. Yeah, it was a rather heavy subject on a starless Tuesday night, I must say.

We shared our experiences and thoughts, though we aren’t experts in this complicated field. Call it girl talk, heart talk whatsoever, it is this heart-to-heart communication that bonds our friendship of more than 10 years (and still counting). Over the time, it builds up undoubted trust and deep understanding between us, to the extent that we could even mind-read each other at times. It freaks us out too yet we are amazed with our acquired ability.

I had wished my future loveship would be something like this too (with a guy of course).

By communicating with our partner with open heart and mind, we would be able to understand each other better and eliminates the tendency of making assumptions (especially wrong ones!) of what your partner thinks and feels. This is exceptionally crucial in the early stage of a relationship because you wouldn’t want to be slapped with shocking facts about your partner on the first day of your marriage.

Reporting system versus sharing system 

In a healthy relationship, couples don’t report to each other. They share and they share details of the their day (both good and bad) eagerly. On the other hand, couples who don’t trust their partner see it as a form of “reporting” that is essential to create a sense of security and assurance. There are couples out there that just don’t share a lot with their partner and yet they lead a happy loveship. Well, if both parties are happy, there’s no issue at all.

Guys usually find their girlfriends too information-demanding (although the opposite happens too), opine that girls like to control the life of others and want to know everything their guy do! Hmm…I couldn’t deny that some girls are true control freaks but I believe there must be some underlying reasons for that behaviour. It could be a personality, lack of security or pure interest.

Personality: It’s either one takes it or leaves it.

Lack of security: This will not be a reason if couples practise honesty and sincere sharing in a relationship.

Pure interest: Best of all. Don’t you love your partner more if he/she is always so interested to know about you? It may sound a little possessive but as long as it’s based on pure interest and not some sort of silly suspicion, it’s a sweet thing actually.

I see myself as a person who loves details and I always share juicy details with my loved one, hoping the same in return. As mentioned earlier, I believe a healthy and strong relationship is largely based on sharing system (not “reporting”).

Honesty + Sincerity + Eagerness + Sharing > Trust + Understanding > Soul-bonding

It takes a second to fall in love, a day to date, a year to wed but a lifetime to find your soulmate.  

Seeding Love

Like a tree, love grows well with the presence of the fundamental essentials of life to keep it healthy and beautiful.

It is pathetic knowing that you spend great efforts every day in keeping the tree grows beautiful and tall but in actual fact it stands weak and fragile because deep inside, its roots are nowhere to be seen.

In this naturally flawed condition, just how long can the tree fight the odds?

An occasional slight breeze may shake its small tender leaves yet brings no harmful consequences. A blow of strong wind, however, will kill it instantly.

A tree like this will never survive into adulthood.

In a relationship, the ingredients of love vary but I strongly believe that trust, sharing, honesty and open communication are the keys to strong and blossoming love.

One of my friends said to me once, “I never trust my partner hundred per cent. It’s very difficult.” But this friend of mine has decided to spend the rest of life with the partner.

I am quite puzzled until today.

“Unless you marry a corpse, don’t ever see your partner as honest as the saint,” I remember someone said that to me too. It was many years ago.

I detested the view.

Deep down, I had faith that things would be different for me. And I waited for years in strong belief that there must be one that I could happily and lovingly share my life with…

Just Maybe…

Love is one of the fundamental things in life and yet it’s the hardest thing to find.

Even when we’re able to find it in the end, it’s not easy to keep and maintain it in its purest form so that love grows strong by days and blossoms through the passing of time.

I thought I have found mine but of late, I begin to doubt and wonder perhaps it is only close to…

 

 

Chow Down: Siu Siu Restaurant, Robson Road

A humble-looking restaurant by the roadside serving tasty seafood to local folks.

Siu Siu restaurant has been around for quite some time. Its signature dish clay pot rice with crab has won many hearts of diners including my old friend Tamie, who recommended the eatery.   

Siu Siu signature dish: Claypot rice with crab

The clay pot rice alone deserves two thumbs up ^^ (I didn’t taste the crab). However, the pot serves at least 4 standard stomaches.   

Barbecued pork

I personally don’t like the barbecued pork because it was way too fatty for me. If you love the juiciness of fatty meat, this is certainly for you.  

The buttered milk prawns were saliva-seducing but one that I had missed out because Luv wasn’t around to unshell them for me *pity face*.        

Long beans with brinjals

 The vegetables were good especially the braised bean curd. 

Balik Kampung Madness

The Balik Kampung madness occurs every year during the festive seasons. This year, we were caught in the massive road congestion on the North- South highway with thousands of other people whom we shared the common goal with – to have pre-Chinese New Year reunion dinner back in hometown.

It took us 8 hours to reach Penang, double the usual travel period. Dad made only one stop at Bidor, Perak for lunch. Rest areas were overwhelmed with visitors and cars that we dared not to go in.

Not wanting to witness the lines of bumper-to-bumper vehicles, I mostly slept through the horrible and tiring journey.